As the masses line up for new gym memberships, sign up for diet food delivery systems, and stock up on detox products and diet pills, I am choosing a different approach to the new year. My approach does involve a gym and there is a focus on health and well-being. The difference is in what will be missing. I won’t be swearing off any macronutrients by going low-fat, fat-free, low-carb, carb-free, paleo, or fruitarian. I won’t be setting a goal weight, nor will I be aiming to fit into my ‘skinny’ jeans. In fact, I’ve either donated or consigned all of the jeans that could fall into that category. No more pining away at a stack of denim for this gal…
I won’t be buying any Slim-fast or signing up for Nutri-system or Weight Watchers. There will be no throwing away of any “bad” foods from my refrigerator. There will also be no judgement of any of the people who choose to do any or all of these things as they ring in their 2014.
So, what will I be doing with all of my time if I’m not studying my new diet or looking down my nose from my high and mighty throne of judgement? How will I spend all of that transformative new year’s energy that we all burst out of the gates with on the first of each year, only to tuck tail and crawl back to our old ways before the end of the first month?
I will be continuing to make small upgrades and improvements to my attitude, my habits, and my relationships. I will focus on being more mindful and present in my life. I will accept things as they are, even as I work to make changes. I will be grateful for my lessons in whatever form they arrive, even if that form is the ever dreaded and long avoided failure. I will push my own boundaries and stretch my comfort zone until it is wide enough for my heart to open all of the way. I want to love myself so much that I can’t help but to love others.
Am I perfect at any of these things now? No. Do I expect to be this year? No. What I do expect is that my efforts will be rewarded as long as I am making the effort. It doesn’t mean creating the ‘perfect’ life. It means accepting that life isn’t perfect, but it’s beautiful. As ugly as it can be, there is always beauty. Happy New Year, friends!